My relationship with Sex And the City growing up was nonexistent. I didn’t even know the show existed until I was well past my formative years. Therefore the attempt to watch SATC, was one made with “grown” eyes. I will be completely honest, I could not get past the whole Mr. Big obsession. This made watching video essays on SATC, more entertaining than actually watching the show. The hours poured into exploring the world of SATC through the lens of multiple video essays, as opposed to anything beyond season 1, has been enough for me to declare that Mr. Big should’ve been burned at the stake.
That may seem like a harsh punishment, however, women were burned at the stake for far less in both media and in history. Therefore, I don’t think this is that much of a far fetched idea. Mr. Big is a big reason why I could not get into SATC. He’s got me wishing that the peloton got him sooner. Unfortunately pelotons were not released until 2014, which would’ve been a bit of a timeline/continuity issue. Though, I am not above getting Dr. Strange involved.
Carrie and Big’s relationship was a major plot point that should’ve ended the second it began. While I can appreciate the realness that comes with being obsessed with a guy who honestly could not care less if you got ran over by a truck in front of him, I do disagree with all the ways in which Carrie embarrassed herself time and time again for him. It physically pains me to watch it happen. She is too much of a baddie. Baddie down. Especially considering that when she finally got him, he still continued to embarrass her. I will never ever forget when they were supposed to get married, and had Vogue cover their wedding, only for Mr. Big to not only be late, but also tell her, outside of the venue, that he did not want to marry her. The fact that she went back to him after that… humiliation ritual. I need my girl, Carrie, to stand up immediately.
To all the girls, gays, and they’s reading this… do not be a Carrie (romantically speaking). If you have a Mr. Big in your life, please do yourself, and your friends a favor, and leave him. Walk away from the humiliation ritual. As a chronically online netizen I saw this comment somewhere on the great internet that said, and I quote, “SATC is like Obsession from Mr. Big’s point of view”. You do not want to be like Bear. So, bare with the pain of not having your Mr. Big, and walk away.
Editor-In-Chief Note: In December 2021, The Hollywood Reporter published accounts from two women who accused actor Chris Noth (Mr.Big) of sexual assault in 2004 and 2015. Shortly after, additional women came forward with similar allegations. Noth was subsequently fired from CBS's The Equalizer and dropped by his talent agency, while his character's final scene in And Just Like That... was cut.